In today’s world, as parents, you play a crucial role in helping your kids build confidence and a strong sense of identity grounded in God’s love. The Bible teaches us that God created every child in his image, with unique gifts, talents, and a purpose that only they can fulfill. By nurturing their self-esteem based on kingdom truths, you can help them see their worth through God’s eyes. Below are some ways to support your child in developing a healthy self-image in Christ.

1. Teach Them Their True Worth in Christ

Remind your children that their value comes not from accomplishments or others’ opinions but from who they are in Christ. Emphasize that they are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). Regularly remind them that they are loved unconditionally by God and by you, which builds a firm foundation for their confidence and assures them of secure and unwavering love.

2. Encourage Their Efforts, Not Just Achievements

God calls us to do all things to the best of our abilities, as unto Him (Colossians 3:23). Emphasize effort, growth, and perseverance over perfection or comparison. Praise their dedication and hard work and remind them that God sees and values the effort they put into their actions. This approach will boost their confidence and encourage them to strive for continuous improvement.

Example: “I saw how hard you worked on this project. God appreciates it when we put in the effort and do our best.”

3. Model Humility and Faith in Action

Show them confidence isn’t about arrogance but trusting in God’s guidance and purpose. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Use this verse to remind them that their strength and courage come from God, not just their abilities.

4. Help Them Overcome the Fear of Failure with Faith

Fear of failure can be a significant contributor to low self-esteem. Teach your children that failing at something doesn’t define their worth. Proverbs 24:16 says, “For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” Encourage them to learn from mistakes, knowing God is with them at every step, including during growth through failure.

Prayer Tip: Encourage them to say a short prayer before they feel anxious about tasks, asking God for courage and peace.

5. Pray with Them and For Them

Prayer is one of the most powerful tools for building your child’s faith and confidence. Pray together, asking God to help them see themselves as He sees them. When they hear you pray for their self-worth and confidence, you reassure them of God’s love and support.

As parents, you are your child’s first example of Christ’s love and acceptance. By helping them understand their value in God’s eyes and modeling the power of faith and resilience, you can equip them to face life with confidence and joy. With Christ as their foundation, they can grow to become secure in who they are – beautifully and wonderfully made.